My daughter brought up the show "Bridezillas" at the hair salon today. I thought, "Oh boy, here we go." She informed the hairdresser that I would be wearing jeans for my next wedding.
I held my breath. I didn't want her going on and on about the guy I have been seeing. I tend to try to keep from thinking weddings and romance with him. We just take one day at a time.
Instead, Kate goes on to talk about how these bridezillas make such a big deal over things that seem to be trivial like getting their hair and nails just right or the most expensive gown known to man or even the right shade of pink for your overpriced roses.
I had told her that material things are unimportant.
Thank God she was paying attention.
A marriage isn't about how much you can spend on one ceremony with all the trimmings. It isn't about the perfect hairstyle or the seating arrangements.
It's about the relationship. It is about how you feel about each other. It is about the fact that you plan on feeling that way about each other for a very very long time. It is about wanting to not be with anyone else. It is about wanting to continue to spend time together and to take care of each other no matter what. It should be about having good times and difficult times and living through those times together no matter what.
A marriage should last longer than the cake.
Seriously.
Some brides seems to accept a proposal just to have the big shindig. They say "yes" without looking past the white dress and big dinner.
I had to laugh when Kate said, "Going to the courthouse can be romantic, right?"
Right Kate, romance can last a lifetime if you do it right.
